EPISTLE OF SEX III

Read Epistle of Sex I here: http://www.facebook.com/#!/note.php?note_id=10150333441261448 Read Epistle of Sex II here: http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10150341144516448 FIRST EPISTLE OF MATTHEW ON SEX Chapter 3 1. I send greetings to you again in the name of our lord Jesus Christ. May His grace abide with you all 2. Remember, I said in my last letter that the message of this epistle is not to condemn you but to inform, guide, exhort and warn you 3. Who are you going to believe, a lie in truth’s clothing or the naked truth? 4. Today, we’ve been bombarded with several wrong and contradictory messages on sex, 5. Some say, ‘No sex unless you are protected’, others say ‘No sex unless you are older’, some also say ‘No sex unless you are in love’, others say ‘No sex unless you are matured’ 6. All these are lies in truth’s clothing. The naked truth about sex is ‘No sex unless you are married’ 7. Today our world is saturated with sex. Sex is used to sell everything from chocolate to tooth paste and even to items that has no correlation with sex. 8. Do not believe that not having sex kills because nobody has ever died for not having sex. I have yet to read the obituary section of a newspaper or an obituary bill where it says, ‘Matthew Adedoyin, 1987 – 2011, died of virginity or of not having sex’ 9. Yet there are young people dying everyday because they bought into the lie that they can’t be expected to control their sexual urges 10. Having sex is a matter of choice, sometimes a very hard one, but it’s a choice under your complete control 11. Statistic had it that those who practice abstinence are more likely to have stable and enduring marriage as adults 12. And the happiest sex lives are found among those who wait until marriage to have sex and this requires self control and discipline 13. The Contemporary English version of the holy book said in proverbs 25: 28 that ‘loosing self control leaves you as helpless as a city without walls 14. My ladies, remember that I told you that guys has virtual libido, they are attracted to what they see. It isn’t their fault. It’s just the way they were made 15. Therefore, learn to dress modestly because your dressing is a reflection of who you are and the home you come from; 16. Steve Harris put it this way – You can’t be address like a prospect when you dress like a suspect. Have you ever seen a prostitute in the brothel on suit? No, it’s not possible because that will never attract her customers 17. Have you not been told in 1 Peter chapter 3 that you shouldn’t depend on things like fancy hairdos or gold jewelry or expensive clothes to make you look beautiful? (But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t dress well) 18. Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special. 19. Long ago those women who worshiped God and put their hope in him made themselves beautiful by putting their husbands first. 20. Just like your virginal, your breast and buttock are your private parts. Do not make it public by flaunting it; keep it for your husband alone. 21. And again your breast, shape, hip or buttock is not an asset as some of you think. 22. If you think it is, go to the bank and use it as collateral for some loan and see if you will get anything 23. I am sorry if I am being too blunt for your liking. I can’t beat that, it’s already me 24. My guys, sex is not for singles, it is not meant for boys and girls at the back of a vehicle or a house that doesn’t even belong to you. It is meant for a man and a woman, only in a marriage environment. 25. It isn’t a convenient exchange. It is only animals that make love at convenience; but when you begin to make love at convenience, then you are an animal. 26. That lady/girl is not a sex object, stop treating her like one. You are supposed to protect her, care for her, love her, respect her and her feelings. She is not a car that you test before buying. She is a woman, not a punching bag or sex object 27. Be informed that the test or measure of a man is not his man hood or how many rounds he can go on a woman. The true measure of a man is Responsibility and Discipline 28. Joseph was an example of a true measure of a man. He had opportunity for free sex from his boss’ wife but he was responsible and discipline enough to escape and protect his destiny. I know some foolish ones will say he missed 29. Yeah, he missed, he missed being a local champion, he missed being used, he missed living in fear of being caught, he missed guilt, he missed destroying his reputation and integrity, he missed being emotionally stunted, he missed psychological trauma and he missed exchanging his future for pleasure 30. More so, if he had done it, he wouldn’t have found himself in the prison and he won’t eventually become a prime minister in a foreign land. He would have been a local champion in Potiphar’s house and perhaps he would have been eventually caught by Potiphar 31. Do not let me take much of your time with this as you might have something else you want to do but you can read again at your leisure time. It won’t be long before I write to you again. May the grace of God continue to live with you Thanks. Apostle of Sexology [For the lady who called me yesterday that my messages are the reason she is still a virgin: Please, stay that way until you are married. For all Abstinence advocate like myself: I believe our generation will raise sex – pure leaders, let’s keep preaching the message]