WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX

Good day,
Few months ago, I announced that Maximum Impact Network would be holding a three month special program titled SEX TALK with Matthew Adedoyin and I promised to put everything I discussed in writing and post it on facebook and on my blog.

The event started on the 28th of August and the first teaching was WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX.
Sit back, relax and enjoy this little piece

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX
Sex is:
 a covenant exchange of two people in marriage environment for the purpose of unity and procreation.
 the difference between a male and female gender
 physical, psychological, spiritual and emotional in nature
 risky; you can get pregnant, get a sexually transmitted disease, have your heart broken or ego bruised, or feel let down and disappointed when it is over
 a process; you only get one chance to loose your virginity
 good
 meant for Re – Creation (Creating new offspring)

Sex is NOT:
 a way to make somebody love you or make a commitment to you
 a test of your love for your partner
 a measure of how mature or grown up you are
 a good way to assert independence
 recreation (Refreshment of the mind and body after work) or a leisure activity
 an event; it don’t just happen (unless you are a victim rape)
 commitment or intimacy. If sex create commitment, then those prostitutes should have a lot of commitment from the different people who sleep with them and still get paid.

Facts you must know
 God is the originator of sex. He made us sexual being. Therefore, it is normal to feel sexual urge. If sometimes you feel like having sex, don’t think something is wrong with you because it is normal to feel so except you are just a pack of wood that doesn’t have blood, water, feelings, emotion etc.
In his book, ‘Sex Straight talk’, Sam Adeyemi told a story of a young man who became born again and was zealous for God. He found out to his dismay that as prayerful and spiritual as he was, he still was sexually aroused, and was being tormented, so he said, by thoughts of women. One day he locked himself in his room and sliced off his penis, because he took literally what Jesus said that if your hand would hinder you from getting to heaven, cut it off.

The guy didn’t envisage the grave consequences of his action. He was alone in the room and was soon bleeding profusely with pain. Afraid he might die suddenly, he screamed for attention.
Neighbours got him quickly to hospital where newsmen found him. “Why did you do this to yourself,” they asked him. His sexual thoughts were troubling him from serving God, he said.
This is a case of a man trying to deny his sexuality. We shouldn’t deny who we are – Sexual Beings. Attraction between the opposite sexes is natural and normal. Rather than deny or pretend about our sexuality, we should accept it and then learn what to do to manage it.
 Your most important sex organ is your mind. If you gain control of your mind, then you have gained control of your life
 The quantity of sex does not make a relationship valid. It is the quality of the relationship that makes sex valid.
 Sex is powerful but not impossible to control
 The most appropriate occasion to have sex for the first time is not when you are matured but when you are married
 Sex is not meant for boys and girls, it is meant for men and women in a marriage environment
 Unless you want to get pregnant, you must practice abstinence. Don’t let anyone tell you that with BIRTH CONTROL you cannot get pregnant – that’s a lie. The only sure way of not getting pregnant is SELF CONTROL.
The most popular mentioned and used birth control tool is condom. To listen to sex educators you would think condom is a safe and effective way to prevent pregnancy and STDs. Everyday sex education classes promote condoms as a means of safe sex or at least safer sex. But the research on condoms provides no such guarantee. It’s no longer news that condoms are only 87 percent effective in preventing pregnancy and 69 percent effective in reducing the risk of HIV infection. And according to a study in the 1992 Family Planning Perspectives, 15 percents of married couples who use condoms for birth control end up with an unplanned pregnancy within the first year and 36 percent within the second year.
Again also, I posted on my facebook wall few months ago about a guy who called me he was at one of our event early this year, where I spoke on SAFE SEX. He called and said, “I started having sex at 18 and now I’m 27, I just called to let you know that I agree with the fact that condoms are not safe; my three living kids and two aborted babies were all conceived while I was using condoms”. Then what is safe about birth control?

 The only protection against Sexually transmitted diseases is living the abstinence lifestyle
 You can get pregnant or catch Sexually transmitted infections the very first time you have sex, even if you use protection
 Nobody has ever died from not having sex. I have yet to read the obituary section of the newspaper or an obituary bill which says “Gone Too soon, Matthew Adedoyin, 1987 – 2011, died of virginity. Yet there are young people dying because they bought into the lie that they can’t be expected to control their sexual urge.
 Sex is a progression. It doesn’t just happen unless you are a victim of rape
 The more time you spend listening to music with sexually degrading lyrics, the more likely you are to initiate intercourse and other sexual activities.

Finally, the best motivational and inspirational book I’ve ever read – The bible stated it clear that our body is the temple of the living God. Therefore It must not be defiled which means Pre – Marital Sex (Fornication) and Extra – Marital Sex (Adultery) is not just sin against God, it is also a sin against your body.

Thanks.

I love you.

Stay Chaste.

Adedoyin Matthew
(Visionary, Maximum Impact Network)

[For the two corpers who were caught having sex at the NYSC Camp in Ilorin and for all my friends who still don’t believe in my course….. just want you to know ‘Abstinence lifestyle pays’ It keeps you from safe STDs, unwanted pregnancy, emotional and psychological trauma, problems, bruised ego, broken heart, abortion etc]