SAFE SEX - II

SAFE SEX (Part II)



First of all, I will like us to see the meaning of the word “SAFE” as defined by different dictionaries:



Webster’s Dictionary



Free from harm



Free from injury



Free from risk or danger





Oxford Concise English Dictionary





Protected from or not exposed to danger or risk; not likely to be harmed or lost



Not causing or leading to harm or injury



Uninjured; with no harm done





Encarta Dictionaries





Not dangerous



Unharmed or undamaged



Unlikely to cause trouble





When safe is put together with sex, the message is you can engage in sex that is free from harm, sex that is free from injury, sex that is free from risk or danger, sex that is unlikely to cause trouble. And the only sex that can guarantee that is ABSTINENCE.



When asked about the best way to prevent pregnancy and STDs, most people will say condoms. But have you ever read a condom package? The manufacturers won’t say that their product prevents anything. What you can get is “If used properly, latex condoms help to reduce the risk of transmission of HIV infection (AIDS) and many other sexually transmitted diseases. Also highly effective against pregnancy. Caution: This product contains natural rubber latex which may cause allergic reactions”. I don’t have to open a dictionary to let you know that “help” means assist and “reduce” means lower. When put together, it says, “Assist in lowering”. It doesn’t sound like “prevent” which means stop.



Few days back, I shared on my facebook wall about a guy who called me he was at Maximum Impact Valentine program held on 13th February this year, where I spoke on SAFE SEX. He called and said, “I started having sex at 18 and now I’m 27, I just called to let you know that I agree with the fact that condoms are not safe; my three living kids and two aborted babies were all conceived while I was using condoms”



Then, what is safe about condoms?



It is estimated that there are 42 million people in the world living with HIV and that 3.2 million of them are under the age of 15. It is also estimated that 24.8 million people have died from complications directly related to AIDS. Although, HIV can be contracted through other means but 80% of those that are infected caught it through sex.



STDs are not something that happens to other people. They are consequences of somebody’s actions, and they can happen to you. The odds are that if you choose to do it before you get married; you may as well stop asking if you are going to get an STD and start asking which one you are to contract among the more than 25 STDs. And the truth is that STDs don’t just inconvenience you. They don’t only cost you in terms of medical bills, discomfort and embarrassment. They can kill you.



What I have observed is that highly addicted people do not think right and don’t care what happen to them and their partner whenever they are in the mood, or why would any caring person put his/her family at risk? How would you feel if one of your parents were to put your entire family at risk by committing adultery?



In her book “The Naked truth about sex”, Lakita Garth shared a told a story of two girls she met at a store. These girls work behind the counter and were talking about what kind of birth control to get – whether an IUD (Intrauterine device), a Depo – provera injection or the patch. And then she interrupted, “what happens when you get AIDS? How is the patch gonna help you?”



The truth is that the chances of getting an STD are greater than the chances of pregnancy. You can do the patch, the pill, the slot or some other form of birth control but none of them are a 100% effective in preventing pregnancy, and none of them are 100% effective in preventing STDs. The only way to guarantee that you will not get pregnant or contract an STD is abstinence.



The only true way that guarantees you won’t get pregnant and that you won’t be infected with HIV or other STDs is saving sex until marriage and that is ABSTINENCE.



I love you

Adedoyin Matthew





(For the lady that sent me a text that "What if she decide not to stay purify and for the lady who my encounter with her (though sad and regrettable) cause a positive transformation in my life)